We started the day with a 1 mile walk thru a deep fresh snowfall to a kettle bell class. Between the walk in the snow, the class and then shoveling/snow blowing when I got home, I got a good chunk of exercise today.
As I sit here typing this I think of the gender reversal going on right now. I took care of the snow on the driveway, sidewalk and roof today, my partner is doing most of the cooking in the kitchen for a big Thanksgiving meal. I am happy with this.
We are having Thanksgiving at my dad's tomorrow, however Michael still wants to cook a traditional meal too so we will have that tonight. We have also each invited a friend to join us who don't have family living in town. I could tell by the friend I invited's voice that he really appreciated it. If that weren't enough beauty, Michael has been dancing in the kitchen while he cooks.
Michael does not dance. However the blog post I wrote last week and just posted now, might explain why.
Wednesday, November 27, 2019
The Offer
Written last week, but I waited to post, just wanting to sit with it ourselves first for a bit, and in case anything fell thru...
The man I live with, came downstairs and said, "I think I might cry," because someone finally offered him a job. He'd heard that people might low ball him because he'd been out of work for so long, but without even a negotiation, he was offered a bit more than his last position. He laid on the couch like a piece of sludge. He said muscles that hadn't released for a year were letting go.
Later we sat together and did a ritual of gratitude. He said he wants to figure out what happened. After the lay-off he got up every day and was at a computer and working, however it took a long time for him to start applying for positions and even longer to get some confidence back. I don't know how much time he'll take to look deeper into this once he is busy working again, however I'm grateful that he at least wants to try.
The car needs new tires and brakes - important things, but things you debate on when you don't have an income. We decided to order the tires a few weeks back before the roads get icy, it took a while for them to come in, so that appt is Thursday. After the offer today it was no more debating about when to do the brakes, that appt is now tomorrow.
The man I live with, came downstairs and said, "I think I might cry," because someone finally offered him a job. He'd heard that people might low ball him because he'd been out of work for so long, but without even a negotiation, he was offered a bit more than his last position. He laid on the couch like a piece of sludge. He said muscles that hadn't released for a year were letting go.
Later we sat together and did a ritual of gratitude. He said he wants to figure out what happened. After the lay-off he got up every day and was at a computer and working, however it took a long time for him to start applying for positions and even longer to get some confidence back. I don't know how much time he'll take to look deeper into this once he is busy working again, however I'm grateful that he at least wants to try.
The car needs new tires and brakes - important things, but things you debate on when you don't have an income. We decided to order the tires a few weeks back before the roads get icy, it took a while for them to come in, so that appt is Thursday. After the offer today it was no more debating about when to do the brakes, that appt is now tomorrow.
Monday, November 11, 2019
I Nailed It
#1 - My friend came over for a brisk, lunchtime walk today, my cheeks were pink and invigorated. She also shared with me a draft proposal she has written for a theater piece.
#2 - My partner was disconnected with me when we woke up - hurt, upset or angry about something. I tried to talk to him about it but he was preparing for an interview today and not in the space for that. A half hour before the interview he reconnected with me with a hug. He said he realized what he needed was connection. We still need to talk about what was bothering him this AM, however I'm glad he chose to shift his focus.
#3 - "I nailed it!" his comment after the interview.
#4 - Having the time and space to listen when someone I love called me about a disturbing experience. And then at the end of the listening having a resource (person) in mind that I just emailed to get some support and advice about the disturbing situation.
#5 - Finally a podcast I listened to today on a topic I've long found concerning - especially considering almost everyone now has it in their homes.
"Are you holding a smartphone or sitting down at your laptop right now? If so, you’re just a few clicks away from free, hardcore pornography. There are no explicit content warnings, and no age verifications to make you think twice about clicking "play”—which means kids as young as 9 and 10 are being exposed to sex for the first time via sites..."
#2 - My partner was disconnected with me when we woke up - hurt, upset or angry about something. I tried to talk to him about it but he was preparing for an interview today and not in the space for that. A half hour before the interview he reconnected with me with a hug. He said he realized what he needed was connection. We still need to talk about what was bothering him this AM, however I'm glad he chose to shift his focus.
#3 - "I nailed it!" his comment after the interview.
#4 - Having the time and space to listen when someone I love called me about a disturbing experience. And then at the end of the listening having a resource (person) in mind that I just emailed to get some support and advice about the disturbing situation.
#5 - Finally a podcast I listened to today on a topic I've long found concerning - especially considering almost everyone now has it in their homes.
Is violent porn changing us? Next Question with Katie Couric
"Are you holding a smartphone or sitting down at your laptop right now? If so, you’re just a few clicks away from free, hardcore pornography. There are no explicit content warnings, and no age verifications to make you think twice about clicking "play”—which means kids as young as 9 and 10 are being exposed to sex for the first time via sites..."
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/is-violent-porn-changing-us/id1134154895?i=1000451338319
Sunday, November 3, 2019
Consider This
#1 - Dala - I printed out the chords to a couple of their songs a long time ago, but I didn't have the lyrics. Today I went online to play along with them and played those songs as well as a few other Dala songs I was unfamiliar with. My fingers don't have much for callouses since I haven't been playing much but it was fun to play again.
#2 - While I was waiting for my partner to get home and make dinner I debated taking a shower etc or doing meal prep for tomorrow. I expected him to get home soon so I didn't want to take over the kitchen, but I also didn't really want to do meal prep late into the evening. I started small and then just kept going, and by the time my partner was back I was almost done prepping a vegetarian lasagna to bake tomorrow.
#3 - So tomorrow all I have to do for dinner is put the lasagna in the oven. This will work well as I'm finally going to check out a writer's group that happens once a month at one of the local libraries, it hasn't worked out with my schedule to go thus far.
#4 - My weekly Sunday soccer was on a "bye" today, but since I'm living in a relatively new location, it is much easier to motivate myself to get out for a jog. Pretty soon it will be too cold for me, but not quite yet. This also helped make me a little more patient when I was hungry for dinner.
#5 - I called my cousin a couple weeks ago to hear about her birthday weekend. When she answered I said, "Is Tyler still there?"
"Yes."
"Ok, then I can hear about your weekend later. Love you." They live 6 hours apart so they value the time they have together. She told Tyler what I'd said when she got off the phone and he thought I was being very considerate.
#2 - While I was waiting for my partner to get home and make dinner I debated taking a shower etc or doing meal prep for tomorrow. I expected him to get home soon so I didn't want to take over the kitchen, but I also didn't really want to do meal prep late into the evening. I started small and then just kept going, and by the time my partner was back I was almost done prepping a vegetarian lasagna to bake tomorrow.
#3 - So tomorrow all I have to do for dinner is put the lasagna in the oven. This will work well as I'm finally going to check out a writer's group that happens once a month at one of the local libraries, it hasn't worked out with my schedule to go thus far.
#4 - My weekly Sunday soccer was on a "bye" today, but since I'm living in a relatively new location, it is much easier to motivate myself to get out for a jog. Pretty soon it will be too cold for me, but not quite yet. This also helped make me a little more patient when I was hungry for dinner.
#5 - I called my cousin a couple weeks ago to hear about her birthday weekend. When she answered I said, "Is Tyler still there?"
"Yes."
"Ok, then I can hear about your weekend later. Love you." They live 6 hours apart so they value the time they have together. She told Tyler what I'd said when she got off the phone and he thought I was being very considerate.
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