Compliment of the Day

My kitchen sink clogged a month or so ago.  First I tried to snake it out myself (with some help), then I paid someone a few hundred dollars to clear it.  It worked for 3 days and then clogged again.  Then I asked the association to send someone else (not clear if this is my responsibility or not).  They did send someone.  I asked the last guy if he could specify where the clog was on the invoice. It was beyond my unit so the drain also takes input from the unit above me at minimum.  I still received a chargeback last week.

#1 - I felt really calm when I wrote back an email about the chargeback.   "This invoice states, 

"I proceeded to remove the waste arm and p trap and used the mini camera to find the clog to be in the stack about 30 ft away. I used the mini rooter to drop the clog and cabled about 45 ft out to ensure the line was clear and Draining."

I cleared out the pipe in my unit using a snake both myself and with another sewer and drain cleaning company that prior week, but the clog was clearly beyond that.

Please explain how this falls in the responsibility of the "within my walls" provision."

I didn't think this fell within the bounds of my responsibility, however I also knew that I could pay for it if need be.

#2 - Today they responded, "We re-reviewed the invoice and yes, it was mistakenly charged back to your account. We are working on reversing it. It may take a little time, but we will confirm once we are alerted of the reversal."

#3 - I am helping my brother and sister-in-law tomorrow and driving the kids to their sports practice.  I looked up if there was a nearby beach or something we could go to after and found a park in their suburb has free 1 hour long kayak, canoe and paddleboard rentals. I wonder if it is only for residents?  It didn't say that though, so we'll go check it out.

#4 - I did an online Eckhart Tolle Zoom group.  We all watch a talk of his for about a 1/2 hour and then it breaks us in small groups to share what resonates with us.  It gives written instructions in the beginning, one of which, "Please refrain from offering advice."

This is not the first time I shared what I connected with and a woman jumped in to offer me advice.  It started feeling like a push back and forth with her, and eventually said I felt "analyzed" (which isn't a feeling).  

Anyway, I wouldn't say I handled it poorly.

I wouldn't say I handled it well.

It's all practice.

#5- My niece recently starting driving with her permit.  When I spoke to my sister-in-law today she quoted my niece saying, "My goal is I want to drive like Tammy. She drives like walking."

Letters and Stories

 #1 - I got an alignment on my car earlier this week because Costco said my new tire warranty would be invalid without it. Along with the alignment they gave me $1400 in suggested maintenance based on the mileage.  I called the guy I started bringing my car to a couple years ago for maintenance to ask about the list.  A couple he had already done.  A couple he said were not necessary at all. One he said was due now, which I scheduled later this month (spark plugs).  What a relief to have someone who seems to be honest in an area that I know nothing.

#2 - I started reading Letters to a Spiritual Seeker after being reminded of my prior infatuation with Henry David Thoreau after visiting the arboretum last week.  My love has been rekindled.

#3 - "When you travel to the celestial city, carry no letter of introduction. When you knock ask to see God - none of his servants (18)." Henry David Thoreau

#4 - Like Thoreau, I write letters, and you can bet my current one is going to get some quotes from this book.

#5 - I got really frustrated because the Eckhart Tolle website was overcharging me.  I paid for a year membership this Spring and then they still started taking monthly deductions.  It took a lot of back and forth to get that resolved.

Last month I signed up for an online course, paid in full, and then saw an additional charge.  I emailed to inquire what it was, suspecting the same thing happened again.  It took a while to get a response, and then they said it was related to the new course I signed up for. I said I already paid for it in full and wanted the monthly charge refunded.  Then they refunded the whole thing and cancelled the course (this happened last time too). 

I knew this was all practice for my pain body, and I did better this round. I laughed some. But eventually I got pretty frustrated.

Finally I received a response that the charge was actually a refund because they decreased the price of the course.

The price was a refund and I didn't notice, because I already had a story in my head.

Living a Life of Service

 #1- It's been really hot and I just needed a quiet/inside evening today so I ended up looking up Nate Bargatze (comedian) and listening to him on Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend.  Around minute 35 he says, "I really try to remind myself that it's not about me. I'm living a life of service."

#2 - I went to the arboretum yesterday, the last time I recall being there was over a decade ago when I saw 1 of my 2 favorite theater performances (both by the same company) - Nature - a walking outdoor play about Thoreau and Emerson.  

I could vaguely remember the theater company's name.  It took some false starts and I found it.  They had a new production in May that I just missed.  I'm glad they are still in business.

#3 - I've also been watching the osprey camera on occasion today from the arboretum.  The birds spent quite a bit of time preening and being.  Now they've nestled down for the night.

#4 - I also thought about bringing my niece and nephew to the arboretum.  The friend who brought me thought my niece had reached the age of paid admission but that my nephew would be free.  I looked today though and my niece would actually still be free too if we could get there this summer.

#5 - Plentiful, in season produce.  I'm enjoying quick lunches with hummus, baked tofu, and lots of seasonal vegetables this week, even a few cherry tomatoes from my patio..  Tasty, easy and delicious.

 

Strange Night

 #1 - I think I played my 5th ultimate frisbee game tonight (which is probably my 7th game in my life). I sort of understand it, and I made 2 catches and passes so that is a successful game for me. However we also used some "zone" defense today instead of guarding a person and I had to have a whole new tutorial on the sidelines.  My teammates are kind and patient and happy to explain.

#2 - Usually I eat an early dinner and then I'm done eating for the night.  However I came home hungry tonight and I'm not allowed to eat anything tomorrow (colonoscopy prep), so I had some fish and now I'm having a root beer float.  I never have ice cream right before bed, so that might be a bad idea, but I need something filling and so much of what I'd normally eat isn't an option.  Anyway, it feels indulgent.

#3 - I finished Virginia Roberts Giuffre's Nobody's Girl: A Memoir of Surviving Abuse and Fighting for Justice. I wasn't sure if I wanted to read it, but I started it Friday and finished it 3 days later. I would recommend it.  It's important.

#4 - I've been doing writing on Zoom once a month with a friend who is in the Peace Corps in East Timor.  She is 14 hours ahead, so usually we do late afternoon/early evening for me and morning for her.  Today we tried 6:30AM my time. I don't think I've ever woken up and gone straight into a writing practice with someone before.

#5 - I listened to an interview my friend Jill sent Katie Couric talking with Liz Oyer (who I didn't know), about the attorney general nomination, and I made the phone they suggested to Senator Cornyn's office, even though he's not my senator they said to call.  It was a small thing today, but it was something.

ASMR Studio

#1 - Since I posted about a spa last week, I will expand upon that theme now. I was going to send one of my cousins a Youtube video from Gentle Whispering ASMR -

Ultimate Real Person ASMR 🌙 Ear Attention, Hair Play & Gentle Touch

And then I noticed what I wanted to say to her was already echoed in the comments below the video - "Why do we not have this in the real life? How come no one has opened ASMR studio yet. Pure bliss. The clouds of relaxation"   I wonder what percentage of the population has felt touch as loving as is depicted in this video?  As far as the adult population, probably next to 0%. Though someone else commented an ASMR studio where you could pay for this would attract a lot of creepy people, which I am also sure would be true. 

#2 - My favorite comment was, "Am I jealous of Elon musk no. Am I jealous of Jeff Bezos nope.. but the envy I feel towards Veronica has no name "

#3 - It's been a long time since I biked to my monthly poetry group, in fact I haven't done so since I've lived at my current residence. Today I finally did.

#4 - Someone read Billy Collin's poem Ballistics and I laughed out loud.

#5 - Seeing the holiday weekend up ahead with almost nothing planned, I decided to see if I could find any theater to attend. Most places weren't showing anything this weekend, but I finally found one Antonia that interested me. I debated finding someone to go with me, though I didn't feel inspired to make the effort. Two of the three shows this weekend were sold out and the last show had 1 ticket left.

Scandinave

 #1 - After not getting a professional massage for a decade, I decided to make that a part of this year. Could I could find someone that not only has the skills, but the loving energy that the Franciscan sister emanated when she'd give a massage at a local retreat center?  So far I've kind of shrugged my shoulders. I've enjoyed them, but haven't really thought the people I've tried I'd return to.

Then today, I changed my mind!  However the person who gave my massage is definitely not local.

#2 - There is a little woods with a short path just across the street from where I'm staying.  Tonight I was back on the computer preparing to go home and the woods told me to stop and come see them.

I listened.

#3 - I told my friend before I left on this trip that it felt like a honeymoon trip, though I'd be going alone (this is not the first time I've thought this). However there wasn't a single moment on this trip that I wished I had someone traveling with me.  

 I'm also super grateful to have people I love to return to.  If my life were here, knowing no one, that happiness would quickly turn to immense sadness.

#4 - I went back to a spa today, where the idea is 10-15 minutes hot, 5-20 seconds cold, 15 minutes relax in a hammock etc.  I wasn't sure when I tried it last week if I'd be able to do the hot/cold.  It never appealed to me.  To my surprise it was both easy and I loved it.  In part because the hot spaces were spacious and had windows (the setting was magnificent), and the cold was only 54 F/12 C, so not like a frozen lake. I think the snow fed lakes I briefly swam in the last couple summers prepared me for that. 

Anyway, it was the perfect way to spend my last day here and to absorb my trip.

#5 - When I went to the spa last week I didn't know what I was doing. It was fun to return today, confident and jump right into the rhythm.

New Journal

 #1 - I have filled enough journals to come to trust in the magic of them ending when an energy shift is about to happen/a change is taking place.  So tonight I wasn't surprised to finish the bright red one I've used since Feb 10th.  I always like to have a few journals in waiting so that I can pick the one that feels right. Today I had more than the usual 3 or 4, I had 9.  The one journal I've had in mind that may be up, clearly was no longer the right energy after the last week.  The one I selected, I think was partly to do with the image (flowers), but more so to do with the texture. It isn't flat, I can lay my hand across it and feel it.

Still I wasn't quite ready to write in it today, so I decided to do a gratitude blog day instead of a journal gratitude day.

#2 - Being grateful, that in life I do things ahead of time, otherwise the fact that I had a family member in the hospital this week would have had additional stress. So often I need the space that preparing for things ahead of time allows.

#3 - A friend and I made a plan early in the week for me to stop at her place for dinner tonight and to do a little writing.  Both things were needed today.  I am feeling withdrawn/drained, however I can still express myself thru the pen.

#4 - I have been having shoulder issues the past month and a half.  However, if my shoulder still feels tomorrow AM like it does tonight, it has improved enough I plan to call and cancel my physical therapy appointment this week.  (Writing this makes me concerned I'm going to jinx that, I just knocked on wood.)

#5 - There are two things (well kind of 3 I guess) that I turn to, that feel like a hug/embrace, and right now I could use that.  Gentle Whispering ASMR, Latte ASMR and Eckhart Tolle.  Tonight Eckhart is up.  For all the downsides of technology, I am grateful it has the capacity to be truly nourishing.