Minneapolis

#1 -  "Is ICE starting to leave Minneapolis? | Marianne Williamson" 

"The citizens of Minneapolis have created a template, God bless them, did an extraordinary job. and I'll tell you something, when, not if, when the history of all this is written, the citizens of Minneapolis at this time are going to be seen as real heroes." Marianne Williamson

It's true and I've been inspired by surprising heroes.

#2 - "I'm always reminded of the Churchill line, 'You can always count on the Americans to do the right thing after they have exhausted every other option.'" - Marianne Williamson

#3 - I sent out emails to almost everyone I know in Minnesota asking them to attend precinct caucuses next week.  It's the basis of the democratic process in this state, and good timing for people that want to take tangible action.

#4 - All this makes me wonder when people will be ready for a new type of leadership. I suppose we will have a new type of leadership, when that leadership reflects us becoming a new type of people.

#5 - "If we want to save the world we must have a plan, but no plan will work unless we meditate." Dalai Lama XIV

We Need Everything

 #1 - When I was putting on my ice skates for the first class of my intermediate lesson, I watched the adult beginners. They all looked wobbly. One in particular appeared the least steady, to possibly never have been on ice before.  Not only that, but she was a dark skinned woman, in a hijab, in a sea of white. I admired them all, and especially wanted to encourage her.  One moment she caught herself from a wobbly moment, caught my eye and I smiled and we laughed together.

#2 - I thought to myself, "This is my last ice skating lessons" (meaning in my life).  That was before the class started.  During the class I realized...I took one session last winter - when I was one of the worst in the intermediate class. This is my 2nd intermediate session this winter and I am definitely at the head of the class.  When the teacher was impressed by my stops and my crossovers I thought, "I couldn't do any of this before my session last winter."

I still don't think I'll ever take advanced, I have zero interest in spins and the other things that classes focuses on,

but maybe it isn't my last skating lesson either.

#3 - After some beautiful nudges from life, I signed up for one of Eckhart Tolle's online courses last month. It couldn't have been better timing. Tonight as I was listening to Challenges as Catalysts for Growth I started to feel a bit restless, so I paused and turned on some music and did a little dancing.  And then I was reminded how when I lose face in humanity, music reminds me of what we are capable of.

#4 - Will Evans - Bridge with No Name 

(song I was listening to on repeat as I wrote #5)

#5 - We Need Everything

We need it all

We need it now

We need your pain

We need your power

We need your dance

We need your tears

We need your hope

We need your fears

We need your reach and your contractions in vain

We need your desperation

We need your pain

We need your questions

We need your space

We need your suggestions

We need your grace

We need you

We need you now

Whether that means sitting in silence

or reaching out somehow

We need what is inside you

we need the voice that wants to care

We need what guides you

We need

We need what's there

What's there is an arrow

What's there is a path

What's there is a question

What's there is the aftermath

of centuries of struggle

centuries of fear

we hold it inside us

we hold it right here

right here in my palm

right here in my heart

right here in the surrounding silence

right here

Please don't run from this darkness

please don't shut down this pain

find the space just around it

find the space that remains

when the mind drops its story

when the emotions just flow

when what is is everything

when now is all you know

Homemade Cleaners

#1 - Yeah! A snowstorm in place of the rain we've had recently which did a number to the cross country skiing.  And it's a day I had nowhere to drive, so I could just enjoy the beauty, take a little walk, and even shovel for fun before the grounds crew gets here.

#2 - I hung up an Xmas gift from my uncle.

#3 - After my Dad died I continued making dishwasher and laundry soap per the system he set up.  However after I ran out of one of the ingredients (Fels Naptha), I abandoned the process. I learned Fels Naptha wasn't something I necessarily wanted to buy more of.  Today I found a different recipe using Dr. Bronner's pure castile soap bar which I can easily get. Not sure when I will feel the initiative to continue this, but I can at least get the last ingredient so I'm ready when I do have it.

https://www.measuringflower.com/laundry-soap/

 #4 - Though now I see that Borax is rated worse than the Fels-Naptha which I still have a bunch of for the dishwasher soap.  Hmmm.  I guess that needs to be phased out too.

#5 - This is a great website to look up this info!!!  https://www.ewg.org/cleaners/

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I was making dinner and I realized I got distracted by this cleaning info and forgot to write about something I intended to. The Gottman's the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse!

"The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship."

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

Of the 4 horseman I am definitely most guilty of defensiveness. Both according to my own reflections and the perspective of my former partner.  

I was thinking today a bit about how that pattern was established in me.  Growing up I don't think my parents modeled taking responsibility for their emotions.  They gave that power to other people.  So for example, it might be mom's fault that my dad was screaming.  So I learned if I did something maybe it was my fault my dad was so angry.  But then I might ask myself, "Is it my fault? Am I at fault here?"  Immediately I am in defensive mode trying to figure that out. But the fact is IT DOES NOT MATTER if I am at fault, it is still never my fault how someone reacts.  This is a lesson I will practice the rest of my life.  

I want to be responsive to someone else's reaction, and if there is a way I can do things differently that would be helpful I want to hear and be open to that. But need to watch the defensiveness because I am only responsible for my own emotions.  And I need to step into that responsibility, instead of victimhood.

Anyway, I'll be figuring this out for a long time, but I'm trying.

Why Am I Here?

I was going to write a list of five gratitudes today, but after being outside with my friend in the cold today she asked exasperated, "Why am I HERE?" We were headed back to my place to write, so I decided that would be our first prompt, which led down a surprising path.

Why Am I Here?

I am here because my father died and left enough money to buy this place. I am here because I needed some place to live that wasn't sad. I am here because M and my relationship as we knew it ended. I am here because I was born here. I am here because my parents were born here (in this state). I am here because my grandparents were born here. I am not here because any of my great grandparents were born here – 3 emigrated from Sweden. They were here because people in Sweden were starving and Sweden is somewhat like MN geographically and for a time between genocide and now, our nation was a place that welcomed immigrants – or certain immigrants - or immigrants for certain purposes – such as driving back the original inhabitants.

I am here because it is the greatest concentration of people I love living here. I am here because light shines on this planet in the precise intensity to allow life forms to emerge. I am here because I love this spot where I can turn and glance out the window and see the snow covered trees framing the sky. I am here because sky is expansive the way lungs are when we inhale. I am here because when hail falls down – it appears the sky is falling – however instead it is just ice in a very strange place.

I am here because Earth is a strange place to inhabit somehow despite all its beauty.

I am here because in some cultures beauty is an organizing principal.

I am here because I believe in principals as a signpost for my life.

I am here because quiet spaces nurture and support me – quiet lighting, quiet pens upon the page. I am here because the page is an open palm – awaiting to receive my blessing. I am here because blessing is given when we are born, but not all feel nor receive it.

I am here because oxygen permeates my lungs. I am here because of my lungs and my heart.

Out of My Head

#1 - I don't often have impulses to contact my former partner anymore (luckily) but today I definitely did when I was excited to come upon this duet.  Will Evans is someone we both enjoyed as an opener to Trevor Hall (a favorite musician of both of us) and Tristan Prettyman someone I'm also a fan of, so I got so excited to see this.  Instead I will just post it here.

#2 - I was invited to a perimenopause/menopause gathering at a friend's house  - a gratitude both because it is a topic that I want to learn more about, but also just because a friend invited me (because I usually do most of the inviting!)

#3 - Speaking of which I'm going to hear music tonight from some favorite musician friends that a different friend made me aware of/invited me to.  (Brothers Frantzich)  The first time I will see them since one of them gifted me a guitar.

#4 - I'm not going to explain the context of this brief email I received today, "So 11/30 at 11(?) at which cemetery?" But the ridiculousness of it made me laugh out loud. (It is not related to anyone dying).

#5 - I don't think I'm a particularly good singer, and that's fine. So when the musician that gave me the guitar said I have a beautiful voice I took it with a grain of salt.  But once in a while, maybe in a very narrow range, I do think it sounds good. Singing along with the song on this post I felt it, and hopefully I'll feel that way singing tonight.

The Wild Edge of Sorrow

 #1 - Today was the 1 year anniversary of my book club which has been a huge gift this past year as far as connecting with friends and creating community. It is fitting that the book The Wild Edge of Sorrow - talking about grief led to a deep discussion.

#2 - After book club my 2 cousins, who are in book club, stayed and talked quite a while longer with me.  They are an immense gift in my life.

#3 - I passionately talked about Prayers around the Cross, a service at Holden village where people silently shared and were supported in their pain and grief.  I said our culture does not offer space for that, and until we can figure this out, grief that has no outlet will be redirected (shootings for example), this is hard and critical work.

#4 - One of my friends said they were going to share something vulnerable, and as they spoke I felt a quickening in my heart that meant I was being directed to share a vulnerable seed within my life too.  I wasn't expecting to share that seed at all, but I understood in the way my body reacted that it needed to come out.

#5 - I have learned that after book club I have a hard time falling asleep (too stimulating apparently). So I will put my computer by my bed so I can switch to an ASMR audio if needed, however right now I'm not convinced it is necessary as I'm pretty tired.

Father Thomas Keating

#1

"Silence 

is God's first language

everything else

is a poor translation.

Whatever we say about God

is more unlike God

than saying nothing."

Father Thomas Keating

#2 - I have a friend coming to stay with me this weekend and I am really looking forward to it, in fact I would say I need it.  She also is a friend that I sometimes write with over the phone and she has suggested we write together - also a perfect recipe.

#3 - I was planning to go speed dating tonight. However both speed dating events I signed up for this month were postponed, this one to my monthly poetry group night so I will not be going. When the first one happened my plans were redirected to another event that made sense. Tonight the only redirection I know of thus far is potentially cleaning my bathroom and making a grocery list, but I guess it is an "easier" evening.

#4 - My friend gave me a guitar this week. Yes that sentence is repeatable.  My friend bought/gave me a guitar.  I started playing guitar in 2010 and have had various guitars on loan during that time (or for a couple years not having one at all). And then Monday one appeared in my hands. 

 It sounds really good and I want to write a song, which I was doing until 2017, but then that dried up.  I still write poems, but songs have been elusive.  I don't know how anymore, but I'm trying, or attempting to try.  I am willing.

#5 - If you want to be free, if you want to heal your relationship with God, with others and yourself, enter your inner room—the office, where the Divine Therapy takes place.

Close the door so you don’t run away.

Quiet your interior dialogue so that you can listen to what the Spirit is saying to you."

Father Thomas Keating